4 thoughts on “Someone almost raped my friend – so she did this, which prevented it.

  1. Thanks for sharing (I assume with your friend’s permission!) but I would add one thing – do try not to use the passive voice when describing rape or attempted rape. Just say “someone tried to rape my friend” – make it about the perpetrator; the content of your post, especially the reiteration at the end, shows you are obviously aware of that as most of us are.

    But this ‘woman was raped’ ‘don’t get raped’ kind of phrasing supports the dehumanisation of perpetrators and failure to place the responsibility on them, instead shifting it to the woman.

    I hope that makes sense and is something to take forward. And I hope you aren’t getting “angry comments”. All the best.

    1. Thank you SO much for pointing this out. I have changed two places in this status-update where I could spot that I had done it – and I changed the title of the blogpost. I am going to write another status to point this out and make people aware of it. I should have known – thank you for telling me.

      And yes, of course I got my friend’s permission before I shared. She approved the whole thing before I posted it. All the best.

  2. I just happened to come across this post and it has brought back some emotional memories (not a criticism, I’m glad I found your blog it’s great). I have had to do this once, use the actual words ‘if you continue what you are doing now it will be rape’ – it made the person stop, but it broke my heart that that’s what it took. It shouldn’t take saying that to stop someone, it upsets me that it has to get to that point.

    1. Thanks for sharing, Bea. I honestly believe it would stop a lot of these things from happening. It is horrendous and sad that we’re even having this conversation – We are going in the right direction though, due to strong-ass 3rd wave feminists fighting the war. We’ll get there, I’m sure.

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